Best Esalen Workshop Exercises

May I be safe

May I be happy

May I be healthy

May I live with ease

Then we can wish the same things for a loved one, a stranger, someone with whom we have difficulties, and then for ourselves again. “Loving-kindness” (metta) is always available to us and this meditation creates a loving container and makes us aware of how much fear and needless animosity we consider to be “normal” in our lives. After going through the meditation for other beings we usually conclude by wishing safety, happiness, health and ease for all sentient beings:

May all beings be safe

May all beings be happy

May all beings be healthy

May all beings live with ease

I have 2 legs

I have human consciousness

I have a few loving friends

I have a roof over my head

I have enough money to eat today

8. Reframing

When do you have this problem?

Where do you have this problem?

Who are you with when you have this problem?

Who are you when you have this problem?

What are you aiming to achieve when you have this problem?

What do you believe about yourself when you have this problem

What skills do you have that enable you to have this problem?

How could you teach me how to have your problem?

How could you teach me to not have the problem?

What skills would you need to STOP having this problem?

Reframing enables us to see what we are considering to be a “problem” through other lenses. Just to be provocative, I will recount an adage I heard some time ago: “Any problem that can be solved by money isn’t a problem.” There are many ways to think about the things that we consider to be problems.

I feel __________________________________________

( a feeling state)

when __________________________________________

(something you observe happens)

because I need ___________________________________.

(an emotional need)

In the future, would you please_______________________.

(a request)

We cannot tell someone to be vulnerable but we can INSPIRE them by MODELING it for them. Non-violent communications is a wonderful tool to help us inspire loved ones show up in a non-blamey manner.

“Onement” by Barnett Newman

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Ira Israel

Ira Israel

Psychotherapist, Career Counselor, Relationship Coach, Author, Esalen & Kripalu Happiness Workshop Facilitator